I can be really quick to people please. I have a habit of bending over backwards to try to help someone. Sometimes I extend this to those that I'm closest with. Sometimes without even asking them if they are cool being compromising.
What I've started to realize though is that while it is easier to ask myself and those I'm closest with to bend, I need to be careful about it. Sometimes I ask because I know it might be a more difficult conversation to ask someone else I don't know as well to give more (even if more might be fair).
It doesn't help that I am not very good at saying no. No makes me feel guilty. Like I'm not good enough or doing enough. No shatters my perfect facade (which is probably a good thing).
I'm discovering that most of the time when I ask someone else to give more they are open to it. They are cool with having a more equitable arrangement. It actually strengthens whatever we're doing together. I also see the appreciation from those I'm closest to when I demonstrate how important they are to me by not asking them to compromise, even though they probably would.
I'm starting to like the boundaries that I'm putting up. It's not being closed to new things. It's just like a special area that I hold all of the amazing things and people I'm so lucky to have in my life. The boundaries mean I've started to get a bit more choosy about who and what else can come in and play.
Being a Force for Good 