More wisdom from Brené Brown today (sorry, not sorry :))
As I've watched friends and family become parents, this idea of being enough has become heightened. I've especially noticed this in the women in my life.
I have no doubt this concept is as difficult for men as for women. I think the women stand out as I am a woman of a certain age and I struggle daily with holding true to my own story rather than the one others want me to tell.
Have I done enough for others, for the world around me or for myself? These are the three questions that roll around in my head. The first two I tend to prioritize as I feel that even if I fail at least I was trying at something that was about others. If I fail at something that was about bettering myself, then I'm selfish and not successful.
These thoughts sound really messed up. It's also likely one of the reasons I didn't score as high on my self-kindness and self-judgement scales. I can feel that day by day, minute by minute, I am growing the self-care muscles and getting glimpses of times when I do truly believe I am enough. It's come from eliminating not enough everywhere I can, starting with my own dialogue.
Being a Force for Good 